Opinion on Sexual Activity in Older Persons

QUESTION: You recently discussed sexual activity in an older person, and gave
your opinion that you never became too old for sex. I think you are wrong,
from my own personal observations, and are giving your readers a bum steer
just to satisfy your own personal and hidden feelings. I bet you never
publish this letter.
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ANSWER: I suppose when you are wrong, you might as well be totally wrong, and
so I will publish your letter and respond to your concerns. Family physicians
are becoming more and more aware that they must consider the possibility of
sexual desire and sexual activity in even their most elderly patients. This
is not a moral or social judgement, or even an expression of personal
sentiment, but merely acknowledges the facts as we are beginning to understand
them, and the fulfillment of our responsibilities to our patients. A recent
study conducted by the San Francisco State University, as reported in the
Archives of Sexual Behavior, surveyed 202 healthy retirement home residents,
ages 80 to 102. They discovered that while 62% of the men and 30% of the
women actually experienced intercourse, 88% of the men and 72% of the women
thought about it in daydreams and fantasy. The most common sexual activity
was touching and caressing without actual coitus, for many men expressed fears
of poor performance and inability to maintain an erection, while the women
lacked vaginal lubrication and drive. Though orgasm was difficult to attain,
it is clear that the will was still there, and the desire to express their own
humanness was still aglow. My answers respond to the requests for
information of my readers, based upon the facts as I find them. You need not
feel threatened by my findings or your feelings, but are free to live your
life as you choose, and in a manner that brings you happiness and joy.